Can You Lower Your Own Thermostat When You Feel Yourself Losing Your Cool?

Upon entering the main sanctuary of every synagogue that I have ever been in, I recall seeing the following verse embroidered, inscribed or emblazoned above the arc, ‏דע לפני מי אתה עומד-  Know before whom you stand.

In comedy circles we say, know your audience.

When I am out with my husband in a group, I sometimes see that look in his eyes and nudge him before he tells that joke I know he is about to tell, to “read the room,” knowing this group won’t get it.

Each of these clichés seem rather obvious, and when we think about ourselves- we imagine our communication style will always be met with positivity.

But, in this fast paced world where we engage with so many different people on so many different platforms, what happens when we feel ourselves losing the room, losing our cool or our composure? How can we tap into all of our tools to effectively engage, enlighten, and inspire? 
And that is what we are going to tackle today...

My guest today is an expert in Emotional Intelligence and the CEO and Founder of Smarter Emotions- Balancing Head and Heart, Dr. Patricia Baxter. You can find out more at

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Suzie Becker

Hi, I’m Suze. Here with your weekly dose of culture, values and identity- and where we tackle those topics others may consider off-limits. A little about me, I’m a busy Gen X mom who, quite frankly, wanted to grow up like the Brady Bunch… but ended up being raised in the shadow of Schindler’s List. So this means I’ve spent a lifetime navigating these mixed messages we get hit with daily. You know those conversations- where we wonder if it’s safe to speak our minds? Can we share our experiences? Voice our fears and concerns, or should we just keep our mouths shut? Well, too bad. I need to know! But I’m no expert. So, I’m going to schmooze the experts and get their thoughts. Why? So, when we engage with our kids, colleagues, or the countless committees we interact with, we can do it with competence, kindness, confidence, and maybe a bit of humor. If this sounds like your cup of coffee- welcome to Schmooze with Suze.

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